In the Sack: March 2007 Archives

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Dear Laura,
It's been a few years since I broke up with this amazing guy and since then I haven't been able to go out with guys. I've been on dates with them but I usually get self-destructive and a bit crazy and really show off my baggage. I have had better chances on second dates with women.

The problem that I have is that I'm still madly in love with this guy I was with and I can't let go of that, which is what makes it impossible for me to be with guys, but I think that the experiences I have with women are purely for sex, and just a temporary fix to my sexual frustration.

I have never felt anything close to love with any girl I've been with, and honestly the girls I think are attractive usually suck in bed, and those with the sexual skills are usually girls I have less than no interest in. I make a horrible lesbian, and a horrible girlfriend in general. So the advice I need is even after getting shut out by the guy I love, do I talk to him again, and keep trying? Do I give up on all guys because I can't have the 1 I want? Or is there a method that works in getting over guys. I went out with this guy about 5 years ago, but still kept in touch until about 9 months ago. I know it should be time to let go but how do you tell yourself to let go of the only one you wanted to hold onto in the first place.

Karen (Bad at letting go)